guerrero wrote:Dear Mr Ref.
I am standing watching a county league game with my wife,eight year old daughter and six year old son.
All I can hear is swearing from the players.
"Fcuking hell ref"
"You're fcuking joking"
You've got the idea,but there is much worse as well.Frequent use of the "C" word,and lots of it directed at the officials.
Apart from calling the police,the match officials are the only recourse we have to the laws of the game.
Why do they not apply them?
Or do you think that maybe my family and I should do something else on a saturday because it's all part and parcel of football?
Even though abusive language is as against the rules as a punch or a headbutt?
Possibly once you are qualified you think that you can apply your own set of rules according to a given situation?
I would suggest that this is not the case.
Please don't use the arguement "I'd end up sending off ten players every game."
It's a bit like a traffic warden saying "If I had to ticket everybody who parked on double yellow lines,I'd be doing it all day."
Well yes.That's what you're there for.If you're not happy applying the rules,don't do the job.
All hypothetical of course,and I love refs.
guerrero wrote:Where are the refs?
Don't they read this bit?
It is called "Ask the ref".It's a bit of a clue.
Those who come on this forum are not usually this quiet.
guerrero wrote:I certainly do remember Steve Coffin.
A policeman I believe?
I remember (forget the thrice taken penalty at Millwall) him allowing a penalty to be taken FOUR times at Saltdean,before it was scored.
It really is interesting that I believe that most officials would agree that if it was clamped down on that foul language would pretty well vanish.
If you made a start by stopping players and managers swearing at you(refs),then it could lead to a decrease in swearing generally.
I don't know how many refs who peruse this forum ever had to officiate me as a player or a manager,but I never would have sworn directly at an official,and I was never chastised for doing so.My biggest downfall was sarcasm.
eg.You were almost the best ref we've had this season,but this is game 36 and there are 35 in front of you.
Or. You were without doubt the best ref.......sorry did I say best?I meant worst,an easy mistake to make.... I have ever seen,and I'm quite old,so I've seen a few.
Banter which sometimes got me into trouble,but never strayed into abuse.
I have said before on here that I liked Bob Ref.
If I said to him after a game."Bob,we won today and you were still awful." He'd just say."Just as well you didn't lose then."
You are the guys in charge.There aren't 20,000 people in the stands baying for blood.If it means going into both dressing rooms before the game and telling them that you won't stand for abuse,then do it,and mean it.When the first toilet mouth walks, just say "Well I did tell you."
A refs revolution is needed to sort out the beautful game.
You can do it if you want to.
Do what's right.